Measuring Love & Male Delusion (w/ Tracie Thoms)
Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer
Headgum & Nicole Byer
4.9 • 16K Ratings
🗓️ 29 May 2026
⏱️ 56 minutes
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Summary
Tracie Thoms (RENT, The Devil Wears Prada 2) joins Nicole to discuss her 8-year journey to join the iconic cast of RENT, the wild logic men use to avoid commitment, and why some of them want all the benefits of a girlfriend with zero of the responsibility. Tracie also breaks down the nightmare of having dated someone who tried dictate her career, and reveals why living apart from her partner has actually been the ultimate relationship hack. Plus, why does true love make you feel sleepy? And Nicole opens up about her PMDD diagnosis.
I'm just such a big fan of RENT and so happy we have Joanne on, omg folks this is a big one for me personally. Rentheads unite!
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| 0:49.6 | Thank you. Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me? Please tell me why. |
| 1:19.5 | Ooh, baby, welcome to another episode of Why Won't You Date Me, a podcast where me and Nicole Beyer was trying to figure out why I was so single, even though you could come on a table |
| 1:25.5 | and tell me it was um uh those little rings that you put on a three ring |
| 1:33.9 | binder piece of paper when uh the the little hole breaks do you know what i'm talking about |
| 1:39.9 | yeah wait the oh the paper, the sticker. |
| 1:45.9 | Do you remember the little sticker? |
| 1:47.6 | Yeah, I don't know what that's called. |
| 1:49.7 | Reinforcer? Reinforcements? |
| 1:51.7 | A paper reinforcer? |
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