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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Setting Relationship Boundaries (w/ Trixie Mattel)

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Headgum & Nicole Byer

Love, Comedy Interviews, Advice, Interview, Encounters, Dating Apps, Podcast, Dating, Society & Culture, Health & Fitness, Stories, Relationships, Date, Sex, Comedy, Single, Therapy, Relationship, Nicole Byer, Tinder, Sexuality, Bumble, Hookups, Interviews, Couples, Romance, Raya, Hookup

4.916K Ratings

🗓️ 5 June 2026

⏱️ 86 minutes

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Summary

Drag queen Trixie Mattel (Drag Race S7, All Stars 3) returns to the podcast! After experiencing how exhausting it is to navigate a private breakup while smiling through a press tour, Trixie opens up about why she is now fiercely protective of her new relationship. Nicole explains why Drag Race S7 is her all-time favorite season, and the girls discuss wild dating reality TV shows like 90 Day Fiancé, Love After Lockup, and Love on the Spectrum, plus whether Trixie would ever actually compete on The Traitors. Trixie also discusses her impersonator recent retirement, gives her honest advice to all the gay singles out there, and reveals her obsession with crime scene cleanup.


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Want to watch this episode? Catch the full video on YouTube. Just hit the link in the episode description.

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This is a headgum podcast.

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We talk a lot on this show about how messy, dating, and relationships can get. But here is something that will make life a whole lot messier. The ongoing efforts to defund Planned Parenthood. Shutting down health centers

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makes it so much harder and so much more expensive for everyone to get the affordable care

0:27.7

that they need. Recently, a law was passed to defunded Planned Parenthood as a part of a year's long

0:33.6

effort to shut down these vital health centers. Now some members of Congress want to make

0:38.3

that defunding permanent, which robs care from the millions of people who rely on Medicaid to get

0:44.9

their health services. Cancers will go undetected, STIs will go untreated, and patients won't get the

0:50.8

birth control they need to plan their families and their futures. But Planned

0:54.8

Parenthood isn't backing down. They're still showing up for patients every single day, making

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sure everyone can access life-saving, life-changing, sexual and reproductive health care.

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Planned Parenthood needs you in this fight right now. No matter the size of your donation, it makes a real difference.

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Don't let them get away with this. Go to planparenthood.org slash defend and give today.

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Oh, baby, we're working on some fun stuff behind the scenes, and we want you to help shape the future of

1:25.0

why won't you date me? We put together a super quick listener survey because

1:29.5

I want to hear exactly what you want to see. Who are your absolute dream guests? What kind of

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wild topics do you want me to cover? Tell me what you want. The survey can be found in the link for the

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Why Won't You Date Me Link Tree in the episode description. Click that in the survey link will be listed at the top for the why won't you date me link tree in the episode description.

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Click that and the survey link will be listed at the top. It only takes a few minutes and truly helps me make the show better for you. Answer now. Find the why won't you date me link

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tree in the episode description for the listener survey. If men my age wanted me the way 19 year old lesbians do, like, oh my God. Have you ever gotten to the bottom of that? I don't know. Yeah, your demo is just young. 20-year-old, like, Sappet girls are like, that's my wife. And lesbian. Trixi and Katia are my lesbian wives. Yeah. But you know what? It's very loving and nobody's going to respect your boundaries like female fans. They could have a tattoo of you and they're still like, can I touch you? That's very, very funny. And like young girls asking old white men for consent to touch them, wacky! You know what I mean? flipping the script, Diva. Why won't you date me? Why won't you date me?

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Why won't you date me?

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Please tell me why.

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