Yeah, the book has that, the book has that moment as you as you're reflecting or recalibrating

on a lot of the themes that are there in the book. And I was thinking about it the other day that I

I was talking to someone about it. I was like, I feel that way about both laughter and tears.

Like there are almost two things we try and hold back. Like we're like, oh, you can't cry about

that or you can't laugh about that. And actually sometimes those are the two best things to do about

most of those scenarios in life. And why not do it more and more? You know, I know we're trying to

raise our kids to say, hey, you know, I tell my story and this is part of why I got into,

went into finally went to film school in college. I started keeping a diary because I would go to the

theater and it'd be a packed house. And I would laugh at the joke that nobody else in the theater

laughed at. The whole theater would laugh at the joke that I was like, I didn't think that was funny. I

was finding I was not crying when people someone close died. I was crying when someone was born.

And I was going, is this okay? Am I weird? Am I off? And I was like, no, that was leaning to that.

It's okay. And let's start writing these things down about how you feel about particular situations

Matthew and and started to write those down and then find some confidence to go, that's okay.

Talk to my parents, talk to friends about them. They were like, no, that's different, but that's

you know, keep writing down those unique sides of yourself. And that's a good point. We try to

raise our kids, hey, laugh cry whenever it's come on. Let it out. Let it be part of the conversation.

It goes along with people say, oh, don't, you know, that old ad is don't talk to yourself. Yeah.

What? No, do talk to yourself. Just remember to answer. Talk to yourself all you want. Just answer.

I love that. Just answer. That's true. That's a great way of putting it. Yeah, it's and actually,

that's half the challenge right? Like all of these like old kind of rules or statements or whatever

it may be kind of blocked that thinking. But what you were doing by writing it down and I love that.

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