You're still able to meet that person with kindness, compassion, warmth, charisma, but at the same time,

not choose to buy what they're selling.

Recently, I was sent a clip from Lisa Billew's Women of Impact podcast, which I appeared

on where I went on a bit of a rant, it seems, about a very confusing thing that men often say

early on in dating. This clip got over a million views, so I thought, let's revisit it and see

what I have to think about it now.

It's not them saying, by the way, I'm not sure I know you well enough yet. That's fine. Let's get

to know each other better than. If they're saying, I'm not sure I'm ready for a relationship,

that is a giant red flag. They are okay. He ain't up.

Telling you today, I am going to hurt you. In case you didn't hear, I am going to hurt you.

They're telling you to your face that you are going to get your heart broken here.

You have to make a decision with that. Do I want to continue to invest in someone who says they're

not sure they're ready for a relationship? Do you?

Okay, so this is the rant. Now I am renting.

Do you really want to do that? Now, you may say if you're 25 and you're like, well, whatever.

I'm just going to have fun and we'll see where this goes. There's nothing wrong with that. I'm not judging

that. But if you find yourself at a stage in your life where you know you are ready for something

real and you're excited about that and you've got someone in front of you who isn't just assessing

whether you're right for them but is assessing whether a relationship is even exciting to them?

Why get into that situation? Why bother? Why spend the time?

It's like someone on the street. It's hard enough to sell someone a car who wants a car.

Now this is a good metaphor because they have options. You want a car? Why I'm in the Honda

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