213: How To Stop Obsessing Over Your Ex's Life After A Breakup

Love Life with Matthew Hussey

Matthew Hussey

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 3 May 2023

⏱️ 28 minutes

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Summary

Have you found yourself checking up on an ex on social media after a break up? Maybe you even found yourself jealous upon finding out they were doing well, or found someone else, or had a success that you don't get to be a part of.

In this solo episode, Matt discusses what it means when we overly focus on our ex's life after a break up and how we can get over comparing ourselves to our previous partners. If you want to value yourself and know what really gives you your worth, make sure you hear this message.

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0:00.0	If we think that the relationship is our value, then we'll hold on to it even if it's torture,
0:06.4	even if it's hell on earth, because we think losing the relationship would mean losing our own.
0:10.3	Hey everyone, welcome to the Love Life podcast with me, Matthew Hussey. Before we get into today's
0:35.6	episode, I wanted to let you know that the virtual retreat is coming up fast. It's from June
0:41.1	the 2nd to the 4th, three days of immersive coaching with me on turning you into the most
0:49.3	confident and powerful you you have ever been in your life. And this is the time to get your space
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1:02.9	if you like my style and the way I help you overcome your challenges in life, this is your
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1:14.4	world, because it's virtual. So it's super easy to take part. All you need to do is get yourself on board.
1:21.2	Go to mhvirtualretreat.com to do that. And now let's get into the episode.
1:26.8	I thought I'd come along and talk about something that I was speaking about with a small coaching
1:34.4	group in the last week, which was our inability to get over certain people and to still be affected
1:45.8	by what they do in their lives. And the example that I used was one of seeing an ex doing
1:56.0	well in life. Maybe they found a new relationship. Maybe they got a job,
2:03.6	promotion, or their business is doing well. We catch a glimpse on Instagram of something great
2:10.6	happening for them. And though we may not like to admit it, there will have been a time either
2:17.0	now or in the past where we felt a pang of negativity about that. We didn't want them to do well.
2:29.9	It may be a shameful thing to admit, but we might have been happier to learn they weren't doing well.
2:38.2	And I think a big part of that is that we somehow feel like we're still connected to them.
2:47.4	And our value derived from being with them. And now that we're not with them,
2:55.7	we feel like it's a vote against our stock against our value that they didn't want to be with us.
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