Once you can realize that your pain is not actually coming from the importance of this person,

but from the importance of the story in your mind, you can start to see that story for what it is. Hello everyone welcome back to the channel. I am Matthew Hussey, a coach

specializing in confidence and relational intelligence and I am widely known for

helping people find love.

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Kelly Markey says, what are your top tips to starting a long distance relationship?

Firstly, be very careful about when you start calling it a relationship.

There's nothing wrong with meeting someone online through the apps,

someone long distance, and having this kind of fun,

flirtatious connection that starts to build. But that time period it probably isn't the right

thing to call it a relationship unless you've explicitly had that conversation but

it would be strange if you had it too soon could even be a red flag

if someone is saying that to you too soon but after a certain period when you have

that desire to start calling it a relationship don't let the desire turn into a reality in your mind that you're now in a relationship

when the two of you have never actually had that conversation.

Because I've, over the years, watched many, many hundreds of people give to this situation like it's a relationship, be exclusive, give time, give energy, give effort, make trips, when the other person is not

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