(Rewind): Do You Feel You’re Giving Too Much in Relationships?
Love Life with Matthew Hussey
Matthew Hussey
4.8 • 2.9K Ratings
🗓️ 14 June 2024
⏱️ 8 minutes
🧾️ Download transcript
Summary
Do you ignore red flags?
Do you feel like you give too much in your relationships?
Do you brush things under the carpet when someone violates your boundaries?
If so, this week’s video is specifically for you…
The richness and depth of a true connection can only come from giving other people the chance to reciprocate your warmth, kindness, and giving nature…
Because while it might feel selfless or nurturing to pour into others without receiving in return – it can actually backfire, weaken your connection, and make you feel resentful.
I promise that if you find the courage to be honest, you’ll find more satisfaction, fulfillment, and happiness in your relationships.
---
Transcript
Click on a timestamp to play from that location
| 0:00.0 | And when you're not communicating your needs is actually a form of detachment. |
| 0:04.1 | You're creating a wedge between you and somebody else because you're not placing trust in them |
| 0:08.4 | to be able to handle who you really are. Are you the type of person who feels you give too much in your relationships? |
| 0:33.6 | Doesn't just have to be romantic relationships, it could be with friends, family, |
| 0:38.4 | you feel that you're a giver and ultimately that gets taken advantage of. |
| 0:42.2 | Maybe in the process your needs don't get met. |
| 0:45.4 | You give so much and then you somehow forget yourself in the process |
| 0:51.0 | and you can end up feeling extremely resentful. |
| 0:54.8 | It comes out in passive aggressive ways or maybe one day you even explode. |
| 0:59.2 | Right? |
| 1:00.2 | And then the person in front of you says, who is this? I don't know this person because we haven't been giving them a true |
| 1:07.1 | impression of what our needs are along the way so now they don't recognize us. Now why do we do this? |
| 1:15.0 | Whenever I talk to women about this, there's often the logic that, well, it's because I'm a giver. |
| 1:23.3 | It's because I'm a nurturer by nature. |
| 1:25.1 | So I like doing those things for people. |
| 1:27.8 | I like showing up for people. |
| 1:29.8 | It's just who I am. |
| 1:31.2 | I'm a very loving person. I don't want to cause pain to those people. I love those people. And anyway, I can handle it. You know, I'm a giving person and yes, sometimes they do things that upset me, but I can live with it. It's okay, but of course they can't, |
| 1:46.0 | because it's like this slow drip torture where eventually you suffer so much in your resentment that that's when that extreme reaction comes about. |
| 1:56.2 | Here's what's interesting to me. People give that logic of, well, it's just because I'm a loving person |
| 2:02.2 | and I am a giving person, so I kind of forget about myself. |
| 2:05.0 | And it's not that it's not true that that type of person is giving. |
... |
Please login to see the full transcript.
Disclaimer: The podcast and artwork embedded on this page are from Matthew Hussey, and are the property of its owner and not affiliated with or endorsed by Tapesearch.
Generated transcripts are the property of Matthew Hussey and are distributed freely under the Fair Use doctrine. Transcripts generated by Tapesearch are not guaranteed to be accurate.
Copyright © Tapesearch 2025.