Matt, I've met this amazing person.

They're incredible.

Chemistry is unbelievable.

I've never felt this way before.

But he's moving to Thailand. If you've clicked on this video, it probably means that you've met someone you like, and that person has taken over your brain. We all know this feeling. You meet someone, you're excited

about what could be, they fulfill a lot of qualities that you want in a person, and you get that

immediate excitement of what if this is it? What if this is the person I've been looking for? What if the

key to my happiness and my future

lies with this person? We feel disappointed any time we get a text from someone who's not them

secretly praying every second of the day that they are about to reach out to us. Anything that

doesn't involve them suddenly feels dull and great, even if it mattered deeply to us yesterday.

And then we tried to distract ourselves. We try to go to friends, family, work, anything that can get us out of this mindset.

But I know the feeling. It can feel like you're sitting with friends trying to happily go about your day, and all you can think about is this person.

It is maddening. It makes dating unenjoyable because we live in that anxious state,

and it can feel like if we don't make this work, we'll never be happy again.

All of this leads to obsessive rumination, which at best makes it

impossible to enjoy the process of getting to know someone and at worst risks

pushing something good away. And today I want to talk about five things that you can do

if you are struggling with this obsessive rumination about someone you like.

By the way, the third point I'm going to make on this might be one of the most practical things

you hear on this subject anywhere. And if you haven't already, I have a brand new private weekly

email that I am sending out to people who are on my mailing list where every single

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