The Oh, So I just got back from a weekend in Zion National Park with a very special group of people as part of my

club 320 program and there was a moment in this weekend that I thought would speak to a lot of people out there.

Kara, one of my group, talked about the self-esteem issues that she had that led to a 10-year narcissistic abusive

relationship that she is still struggling to heal from. We talk about her

healing and how she can learn to forgive herself for the time that she spent in that relationship which is something she has been struggling to do.

Kara kindly and bravely offered for us to release this video.

Thank you, Kara, for being vulnerable enough to share your story.

And without further ado, I present to you Kara from Club 320. Can we sit together on the floor across from each other in the middle of the circle?

I'm quite happy to sit on the floor.

You've already like helped me with the first thing which is just knowing that I could ask for something from a man

Happen care enough about me to give that so thank you for that.

You're welcome.

The story that I have about myself is that I'm not lovable and that I'm not likable just as I am. That I'm only livable for what I can do for other people.

I'm still trying to figure out who I am.

I'm still trying to figure out who I am.

I'm still trying to figure out who I am.

Oh, God, this is hard.

And trying to figure out who's the real me, right?

So not the former college athlete me, not the mom, me.

Not the hard worker me and not the trauma survivor me.

So my question to you is how do I release the shame that I feel,

find my true self, and step authentically into that in front of others

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