If you having a conversation about what you need spells the end of that relationship,

you didn't break it. It was already broken., where you feel like you are constantly being taken

advantage of. And this might not be just a single situation you find yourself in right now. Maybe

you feel like that's been the pattern of your relationships in your life, that somehow you always

wind up giving more than the other person and feeling taken advantage of.

That is what we are going to talk about today.

Now, I want to start by helping us understand why this might be happening.

What's really going on here? Let's run the scenario through.

We find ourselves dating or in a relationship with someone.

They are not giving as much as we are.

And then we get frustrated.

Maybe they start as internal complaints or hurt, maybe we voice them

to our friends or the people around us, but it becomes much harder to speak them to the

person who's not giving us what we want.

Why is that?

Well, we're afraid that if we rock the boat, we might ruin

this thing that we're really enjoying. We're afraid we might lose this person if we start asking

for too much. Maybe on a deeper level, we feel we're not worthy of asking for more. But it becomes extremely difficult to have that

conversation that could actually lead to us getting more. So for a lot of people, they don't

have the conversation at all. And they continue to complain to their friends or to feel

internally unhappy while never actually mentioning what their frustrations are.

For other people, they do mention their frustrations, but they come out in either passive

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