You know, he takes it back a little quickly there. That's a little bit much.

Is it? Is that too much or is that just he likes you so he sent a message back

faster than someone who doesn't care. What weird reason could be responsible for us continuing in our lives to attract emotionally unavailable people?

And what does going out to dinner and asking everyone else what they want from the menu

before deciding ourselves what to get having common with the phenomenon of

attracting emotionally unavailable people.

In this video, we're going to find out.

So I got a question recently from one of my members

saying that she was struggling to trust herself

that her whole life she had struggled with indecision over small things like

what to order for dinner.

She said she would literally have to go around the table

and find out what her friends were getting first

before she ordered her own dinner.

She talked about how all her life she had picked men who were wrong for her, men who were players,

men who were time wasters, men who had no intention of ever taking anything through to a long-term relationship and that this pattern of attracting

emotionally unavailable people is something she had had for a very long time.

In fact, when she dated someone she described as a good guy, she said

her friends would point out that she always found a way to sabotage it. Like any

time there was a guy actually treating her well, there was something about it that felt inherently

uncomfortable or unsafe. She said she would always find something wrong with these guys.

So she came to me and said that she wanted to disrupt

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