Marriage Advice We Actually Believe In
ShrinkChicks
Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT and Emmalee Bierly, LMFT
4.9 • 755 Ratings
🗓️ 29 September 2025
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
This week on ShrinkChicks, Em and Jen tackle one of their most requested topics: marriage advice! And as two Marriage and Family Therapists who are married themselves, they definitely have a lot to say on the topic.
From the best (and worst) advice they’ve gotten themselves, to questions like “How do you know if they’re the one?” and “What should we talk about before getting married?”, Em and Jen cover the messy, practical, and surprising truths about love and commitment. They explore what changes after marriage, which flaws are worth putting up with, and why “when you know, you know” isn’t always the whole story.
Listener questions dig into readiness, money conversations, staying close while changing, and the difference between relational health and chemistry. Plus, in Dear Em & Jen, they respond to a listener navigating how to share pregnancy news with a friend struggling with infertility.
Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
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| 0:00.0 | This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation. |
| 0:04.7 | The developmental age of your marriage is often like developmental styles of children. |
| 0:11.8 | Yeah. |
| 0:12.0 | Right. |
| 0:12.4 | So at one year old, your marriage is just learning to talk. |
| 0:16.4 | Yeah. |
| 0:16.6 | And learning to walk. |
| 0:17.9 | It's going to fall a lot in two years old and three years old, |
| 0:21.4 | and then, you know, they talk about like this, |
| 0:23.1 | you know, seven-year itch. |
| 0:24.7 | You know, I'm gonna tell you, I don't know if you have kids |
| 0:26.8 | that age, they start to really be sort of defy it, |
| 0:29.0 | disobedient, slightly challenging. |
| 0:31.0 | That's normal in our relationship, right? |
| 0:33.5 | So, like, think how long have we been together, |
| 0:35.2 | how long have we been together? How long have we been married? There's developmental ages with relationships as well. |
| 0:44.9 | Welcome back to another episode of shrink chicks. |
| 0:51.7 | Take a seat on our virtual therapy couch and get ready to learn all about, well, you. |
| 0:56.8 | I'm Emily Beirley. |
| 0:58.0 | And I'm Jennifer Chakin. |
| 0:59.2 | And we're both licensed, marriage and family therapist and relationship experts. |
| 1:03.0 | We're the owners and founders of the therapy group, a nationwide psychotherapy practice with down-to-earth therapists just like us. |
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