Welcome to Betrayal Trauma Recovery. This is Anne. We have Caroline on the podcast today. She is a BTR client who recently got divorced and so we're going to talk to her about her experience and what she went through and how she's feeling now.

So welcome, Caroline. You're in this post-divorce situation.

When people ask you why you got divorced, what is your response?

Although I knew about my husband's pornography addiction from the beginning,

I didn't know what that entailed. In the end he refused to get help, refused to get treatment.

It wasn't because he had a pornography addiction, but it was because he did not want to get help.

Even refused to believe that he had an addiction to begin with.

When you say that to people, do you think they respond well, or is it kind of a

triggery experience to have to talk about it

with people who are wondering why you got divorced?

It's definitely like a panic zone

because you don't know how people react.

Some people are very educated on pornography addiction

and others aren't.

You know, they believe that it's normal.

So the reactions vary.

It's only been in the past few months that I've felt like I can

actually say the word pornography when I'm talking about my divorce. So you

mentioned that you knew about his pornography use while you were dating or before you got married.

Did you see any other red flags?

As I was thinking about it post-divorce, I was incredibly surprised at how many red flags are actually worth I

think I just refused to see them one characteristic that I've learned through

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