When your schedule is crowded with kids and activities and church and grocery store and car appointments and other things. It's easy to think my relationship with my

spouse just has to wait, but if you're not careful, the day doesn't come.

Things will just fill in there and push you apart. I'm John Fuller joined by

Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron. They lead the Focus Marriage Department and Aaron, a lot of us struggle with everyday responsibilities and activities kind of

of crowding out appreciation for our spouse. Not a good place to be though.

Right.

And it's very common that as human beings,

we get very comfortable and routine oriented and familiar

with what our spouse does and how he shows up he's going to do the laundry I mean he does it all the time

and it's making sure that we're like combined the whites and the colored

I do it. I do it. It drives you crazy.

It drives you crazy.

That does drive nuts.

But it really is recognizing as we become familiar and comfortable with what our spouse does. It's being intentional with

showing gratitude, expressing gratitude. Research shows that we thank

strangers more than we thank our own spouse.

So it really is being intentional.

Yes, I actually was just searching for the research study.

We thank strangers more than our spouse.

Yes.

And you think about, we get running so fast and we're in

we'll be sitting with our spouse and you know maybe it's the first time we've sat down

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