Loving Through the Little Things: Letting Go of Assumptions Ep. 725

Awesome Marriage Podcast

Dr. Kim Kimberling

Relationships, Society & Culture, Religion & Spirituality, Christianity

4.9 • 813 Ratings

🗓️ 28 April 2026

⏱️ 18 minutes

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Summary

Most of us have experienced that shift in marriage—where the little quirks that once felt endearing during dating suddenly become everyday annoyances. The real challenge comes when those small frustrations start to build, creating distance, resentment, and barriers to connection. And often, it's not just the habits themselves—but the assumptions we attach to them—that carry the most power, quietly shaping how we see and respond to our spouse.

In this episode, Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy share practical ways to keep the small things from becoming big issues. They talk about the power of open and honest communication, setting realistic expectations, and choosing grace in the moments it's needed most—especially when assumptions threaten to take over.

Our hope is that this conversation encourages you to strengthen your connection and approach the little things in your marriage with greater understanding, intention, and grace.

Episode Highlights:

Assumptions do not help the marriage relationship.

Open communication is key to highlighting the differences in your relationship and developing an alternate way to move forward together.

Quotes from this Episode:

You begin to think God made a mistake, which He doesn't.

The way I think about Nancy, is going to impact the way I treat her.

When you start thinking negatively toward someone, just stop and lay it at the Lords' feet.

God wants us to have a good marriage. He gave it as a gift to us so He wants it to be good.

It's hard to build a case against Nancy, when I'm taking her to the Lord in prayer.

Marriage doesn't have to be complicated. God didn't create it as this maze we have to figure our way through.

Time to Talk About it:

When's the last time you prayed for the Lord to help you see your spouse the way He sees them.

Is there something you need to share with you spouse that you've been viewing negatively? Something that is going unmentioned and ignored?

Take time to write down 10 things you love or admire about your spouse. Now share it with them.

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Transcript

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0:00.0	But I think a lot of those things for you begin to think bad about your spouse come in conflict or after conflict,
0:07.0	and it wasn't handled well.
0:09.0	You may have said some things to each other that you've never said before that were negative.
0:14.0	Maybe you raised your voice for the first time, all those kind of things.
0:17.0	And so then all of a sudden this person that thought, oh my gosh, this is the person God gave me to live the rest of my life with you're thinking i think god made a mistake which he doesn't
0:25.9	you know what a stronger marriage without another overwhelming to-do list well the awesome marriage
0:30.8	one thing email series delivers one simple meaningful action each day to help you reconnect, communicate better, and grow closer,
0:39.4	emotionally and spiritually. One thing, when email, healthy marriage, sign up today.
0:45.6	The assumptions we make, the motives we assign, the stories we repeat can quietly shape
0:51.0	how we see our spouse. Today we're talking about how how our thought life impacts our marriage when it's time to
0:58.0	challenge those assumptions and how inviting Christ into our thinking can change everything.
1:04.6	Welcome to this month's awesome marriage podcast with my bride, Nancy.
1:08.7	It's me.
1:09.4	This is a good one.
1:10.7	Rewriding the story you tell yourself about, Nancy. It's me. This is a good one. Rewriding the story, you tell yourself about your spouse.
1:14.1	It's important.
1:15.5	It really is important.
1:16.6	Because the way I think about you is going to impact the way I treat you and talk to you and all in the same, back and forth, right?
1:26.6	Well, I think everything pretty much starts with your thoughts.
1:31.2	Yeah, it does.
1:31.7	You know, if your thoughts are out of alignment with the truth, what's good and right.
1:39.1	Yeah.
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