Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. We've got a great show plan for you. And as always,

a lot of these topics come from you all dropping in those DMs, emailing us, letting us know

what you want to hear about, what you want us to talk about. As I always say, you put those DMs in the

DMs on our Lovelin IG page. That's all the questions you got that you want me to answer. As well as topics

you want me to hit circle back and drop deeper into. And that is where tonight's topic comes from.

We're going to be talking about a whole bunch of stuff. One of them though is I want to talk

about Bump butabum A sexuality. That's right. We're going to be talking about all the diverse ways

that people can be relational, gendered, and sexual.

Now, we're gonna go back a little bit.

There was a time in my career.

This is actually two decades ago,

where we used to think, or we assumed,

that everyone was quote unquote sexual.

And when people started identifying as a sexual,

it was seen, believe it or not, within the field of human sexuality, sexology, and psychology as a pathology. Something must be wrong. Everyone's sexual. If you're not, what's the problem? It's a disorder. Let's fix it. Is it a testosterone issue? Is it a fear of intimacy? Is it a trauma response? What's going on? And then we started to do the work. And, you know,

that's, well, before I even get into the specifics, let me just remind you that psychology has

quite a dark history. We used to pathologize and see as a disorder, same sex detraction,

hypersexuality. We still do a lot of shaming and pathologizing in my field,

but we've started to now normalize that there's different ways to be sexual. We are finally

normalizing being trans and non-binary and gender fluid. And we've really legitimized things

like asexuality, polyamory, and really letting the field catch up

to where people are.

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