Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you. And before we get into

tonight's topic, invisible divorces, what? I know. A lot of us, that's how we're running our

relationships. And hopefully we're going to move into a secondary topic after that. But let's just kind

of carve out some space to acknowledge, hey, however your day is going, hold space for some joy and

pleasure nonetheless,

or for the possibility of tomorrow being better. Remember, as I always say, a bad morning,

doesn't have to be a bad day, a bad day, doesn't have to be a bad week. Things might still be

ongoing that aren't ideal or feeling good or feeling great. However, we can still carve out space

for a little bit of joy and pleasure at the same time. We're holding space for both and also holding space for the idea that maybe that's going to completely change. Change is

constant. Sometimes it gets worse, but at some point it always crashes and maybe improves. But if not,

because maybe you're dealing with something that's going to be ongoing or maybe even forever,

we can still turn to the other direction and like I said, carve out space for something that's going to be ongoing or maybe even forever, we can still turn to the other direction.

And like I said, carve out space for something that feels good, something that is joy and

pleasure tied to it. So just that reminder, want to have that flexibility, that openness to,

you know, what else is to come. Sometimes we dig our heels into whatever it is we're experiencing

and we feel like we're not honoring it by being open or

shifting. So we're holding space for all the above. I talk about that as just a general

relational skill, not just something we apply to our own experience of the world around us or

our, you know, current mental health, but relationally, people are both the person we love and the

person we hate at times. We have to hold both. The person that disappointed us a few minutes ago, we loved everything about them. And now they've done something that kind of lets us down. They're both people at the same time. And it's really important that we kind of hold both, which in a way segues us into tonight's topic. Always, always, always, always coming up with these new terms that explain new phenomenon within

relationship or mental health but sometimes they also just take us back and it's a new term

for something that's always existed and an invisible divorce is basically kind of what it sounds like

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