Good evening, everybody. How are y'all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show planned for you. But you know what? We say that every night because every night we do. Welcome to the show, first time listeners, long time listeners. I'm happy to be a part of your journey. We're going to talk tonight about how to not be a people pleaser. I work with this with every single person. There's a couple of psychological topics that everyone has

sprinkled in. People pleasing is something that's very culturally created. We're not great

with setting boundaries. We're afraid of offending people. We don't know how to prioritize our needs.

We have a lot of shaming guilt around even asserting that we have needs. And as I say, often on the show,

we are so accommodating with physical impairments and disabilities and illnesses. Oh, you have

trouble walking. Oh, you know, you need different physical accommodations. Very reasonable. We can see

it. It's tangible. Our culture is obsessed with materialism. And what I mean is materialism, things we can touch and see and smell and hear. And yet there's so many things that exist in the world that we can't touch see or hear. Things that we can't even measure. There are colors we don't have the ability to see with our eyes. There are sounds we can't hear with our ears.

They still exist.

Sound waves, particles, atoms.

And then there's things we can't measure.

Some of the most important things in life are not measurable.

Things like love.

We will never be able to quantify love.

We can try to create a scale, but everyone's subjective experience and whatnot will never

allow us to really understand

someone else's experience in that way. And that's okay. I love that. I don't want us to be able

to quantify everything. I'm actually one of those, you know, few people in the mental health

field that thinks psychology isn't a science. And it doesn't need to be. It is not about the material

world. We can't quantify. We tried to with these diagnoses, but they're metaphors. They're loose, loose attempts at materialism, trying to make

real these psychological and emotional experiences. But we can't. Psychology is a sociological,

philosophical thing. It is socially and culturally created, and it's all about philosophy. That's

really what we're talking about. Of course, it does have a basis in our body. There is a

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