Good evening, everybody. Welcome to the show. Got a great show planned for you. I'm going to be talking

about how to deal with relational betrayal. And I mean that in the broadest, widest sense possible,

I think when we talk about betrayal, people immediately go to what is often culturally deemed to be

the ultimate most damaging form of betrayal, infidelity, and cheating.

But this is going to be any form of a breaking of trust or sense of you not being there for me, which is going to be the global question.

We're kind of centering all of this around.

So it's a little bit of a show for everyone because as difficult as it is to say this and acknowledge this in the course of our lives and all the different relationships

we're a part of we're going to let people down over and over and over and over

again we're going to do that and others are going to do that so that's the most

honest entry point is recognizing we all the capacity to do this.

And the work is always about deciding, hey, is this person someone that I can still have in

my life? And how we go through this process really determines that. I mean, that's something I

remind everyone if I have to give someone an off the cuff answer. As I say, hey, how someone deals with the acknowledgement or being called out for having, you know, caused harm,

the way they deal with that, show up to that really determines whether or not they're safe

to be in our lives. I did another show last week. So if you want to check it out, go to we are

channelcue.com, scroll down Look for Loveline,

and click on it. And I was talking a lot about this concept of workability, which I think is a

really meaningful one for anyone who's considering whether or not someone's a right match for

them as a friend, partner. And also when they're deciding whether or not they want to stay

in a relationship is how

workable is this person. How workable is this relationship, which basically means what I just

said, which is when they are, you know, when something is brought to their attention, when a

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