Good evening, everybody. How you all doing?

Getting through the week. I hope you are focusing your time as much as you can on self-care,

joy and pleasure, and tons and tons of rest.

I found it very sweet. I also find it very meaningful.

This is out of the Gottman Institute, and this was written by an individual named Salvador,

and I wanted to kind of expand upon some of the ideas that he put out there.

Basically, and again, as always, these topics might have an entry point of something specific.

This is about things you need to think about before entering a relationship,

but more importantly in the first year of a relationship,

but this is something that I think at any

point you can stop and sit down and try to kind of factor in. Remember, we have nowhere, nowhere at

all, are we taught healthy relational skills, visions, perspectives, structures, nowhere. So what happens?

We go to school. We're taught math, science, history. That's

about it. And it's kind of left on your parents. And why would they know? Their parents didn't

know any better. Right. So it's like the intergenerational transmission of really bad relational

skills and perspectives, right? But every now and then, parents show up and do better. But again, that's not

to parent blame. I don't people supposed to pull these things from. Not everyone has access to

couples or marital therapy, right? And I wish they did, because that's the only place you're

really going to learn these things. Tons of great books out there, tons of absolutely horrible

books out there. And they're getting more and more dated. A lot of them are just written for cis hetero people. And not that that matters, but it does matter. And what I really

mean is it's written in heteronormativity, which doesn't even help heterodefined people or even

anyone outside of that. They're very sexist, often too traditional, right? And not really

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