Good even, everybody. How are you all doing? Welcome to the show. Got a great show plan for you.

We're going to kind of bounce around tonight. In the second hour, we're going to talk more about

why you struggle with getting or staying aroused. We're going to spend the first hour doing a little bit

of some relational stuff, quieter, quieter, more kid-friendly topics. So, you know, listen, I have a gift and a curse and it is a double

edge. It is the shadow side of the gift. And that's basically that doing the work I do for

long as I have. Um, I get to kind of see what works and what doesn't work. And a lot of what's

been normalized in our culture are things that don't really help with relationships. And I'm always trying to be a little repetitive because repetition is how we

actually learn, but helps us build in and internalize these perspectives and these tools.

Anyone that's been in therapy knows that sometimes you'll have a

really powerful session. You'll walk away with a new perspective or a new tool or a new

behavior you want to try, whatever it is. And it's so impactful and it's fresh. But then days go

by, maybe weeks go by and you're like, wait, what exactly was that? I can't remember how it was said

or I can't remember how it was, you know, and it drifts.

And that's why I say to clients, after a very powerful session, take some time to really sit

with what was discussed.

Let it absorb.

Write it down so you can come back to it.

I've talked on the show a lot about awareness.

Whatever we direct our attention or awareness to is what really gets built in.

So you want to focus.

I've talked on the show a little bit about how our brains are wired towards protection and safety.

And so they are geared to really log and encode and hold on to negative experiences because

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