Good evening, everybody. How y'all doing? Welcome to the show. We got a great show plan for you.

We're going to be hanging out with those that are kicking around today and tonight because I heard today is a special day for some people.

So for those that are in love, in a relationship and happy about it, I guess that's the caveat.

Not everyone that's in a relationship is necessarily happy about it. Happy guess that's the caveat. Not everyone that's in a relationship is necessarily happy

about it. Happy Valentine's Day. And for those that are not celebrating it for whatever reason

or are single, happily or otherwise, you are in the right place tonight because we got a show

for you. We're going to talk about how to spend Valentine's Day on your own. But again, there's a lot of tips and tricks in there for everyone because it's also going to be just a discussion about how to move through the world as a solo individual and still find purpose and meaning and value.

Yes, we live in a culture where we are obsessed with relationship and relationality.

Some of that is evolutionarily wired into us.

But again, I'm not an evolutionary psychologist.

I'm more of a socio-anthropological thinking person.

And I really think a lot of why we are geared towards what we're geared towards is about socialization.

Socialization can undo all of that wiring. And what made sense evolutionarily back in the day

does not necessarily hold true now. Things are very different. And a lot of that's rooted in theory.

But we are socialized to think that relationality should be at the core of our lives and also something

that we should always be seeking to have.

And I think there's a lot of worth and value in that.

I'm a big fan of that.

I think that co-regulation is far easier and more robust than self-regulation.

I recognize, as I talk about on the show all the time, the relational qualities that make us

healthy and really make us resilient and hold us up. Resilience is about the relationships

we have around us. Studies on happiness are often tied to the quality and not quantity,

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