How often have you spent time with people you love only to feel frustrated and misunderstood? As humans we are all so complex in our network of feelings and emotions. Unfortunately, we’ve been raised thinking that negative emotions are bad and should be shunned. Many of us are barely holding it together, or are spiraling out of control because we don’t know how to handle the feelings that are leaving us totally overwhelmed. Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and author joins me and breaks down why we don’t have to run away from those taboo feelings of envy and jealousy. She explains how to communicate better and hold space for your partner or children and allow them to just be heard. This episode is packed with so much you may have to listen a second time. SHOW NOTES: Unreliable Narrator | Why your perspective isn’t the full story, it’s a faulty narrative [0:19] Unknow Yourself | Lori helping people unknow the stories they keep repeating [1:32] Insight | Lori explains why insight without action is useless [3:58] Idiot Compassion | Lori breaks down what this is and why it doesn’t help [5:05] Relationship Filter | Lori’s questions for examining people around you [6:45] Change | Lori on why change is difficult because of uncertainty and loss [8:17] 5 Steps | 5 stages of change to making a permanent change in your life [9:08] Change Anxiety | Getting through unfamiliar territory & anxiety with change [12:39] Choosing to Suffer | Lori on why we don’t choose pain but we choose to suffer [14:06] Numb the Pain | Distracting yourself from pain feeling overwhelmed [15:34] Feeling Compass | Lori on using feelings as a compass to know what you want [17:13] Negative Feelings | Why the way you deal with negative feelings matters most [19:28] Setting Intention | Lori on setting yourself up for a better day with confidence [22:55] Transformation | Lori shares why tiny steps are so important in change [26:35] Future Loss | Lori explains how change collapses the future & holds us back [32:18] Unfinished Business | How cycles repeat when we don’t address past issues [35:30] Selection | Lori confirms why selection is so important for healthy relationship [39:48] Childhood Wounds | Lori on why you have to give up hope for better childhood [41:53] Vulnerability | When someone opens up and how to navigate what they need [45:05 ] Understand | Why people need to be understood and heard, ask what they need [47:21] CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS OneSkin: Get 15% off with the code LISA at https://oneskin.co  Masterclass: MasterClass always has great offers during the holidays, sometimes up to as much as 50% off. Head over to https://masterclass.com/lisa for the current offer Found Banking: Sign up for Found for FREE today at https://found.com/lisa  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en LISTEN AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/womenofimpact Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices