As a Christian couple you want to honor God and you want to be a good spouse,

but if we're honest, all of us have some internal frustrations or irritations about our mate and that poses the problem.

I'm John Fuller joined by my focus colleagues Aaron and Greg Smalley and Greg think about times when you've gotten

frustrated in your marriage and how you get from irritated to a point of appreciation or at least a different perspective on the matter.

Yeah, just the other day, Aaron walked in to say something to her 16 year old daughter and I was in the middle of a conversation with our daughter and so I thought

Aaron or at least I heard what Aaron was saying directed at me, not at our daughter.

So I get all defensive and we ended up in this, you know, just what we call the reactive cycle,

kind of spinning around in this argument.

And later on

on ultimate I think it was the next day probably we were later that afternoon

I remember this one. So later on that afternoon.

So you quickly made amends and repaired the relationship.

Yeah, so we did actually later on have a good conversation to where I think we both walked away feeling understood and in better

perspective but I know leading up to that that I did have a moment of just this conversation

with God going,

yeah, you know, as you convict Aaron,

be sure to point out this and that.

And I'm looking forward to hearing her,

apologize for this.

You didn't tell me any of this.

I'm learning things.

We take the moral high ground so often, don't we?

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