Well, let me ask you to think back to when you were a younger couple and you couldn't

wait to be with the person you loved.

Has that changed at all?

Well, I'm John Fuller joined by my focus colleagues Aaron and Greg Smalley,

and we're going to hear a conversation now

that focus president Jim Daly had with Matt and Lisa Jacobson. And in a previous episode, the

Jacobson's shared how they've learned to see and think the best about each other. Here's

more. It almost sounds too simple that you can actually think your way to a better marriage.

I know it's...

But it is concentrating on the right things and not the wrong things.

You know, John 1010 says the thief, the enemy, that Satan comes to steal, kill, and destroy, and that God himself, Jesus is saying,

I come that you might have life and life more abundantly. But that first part, it's not, it can be physical death, it can be a whole host of things. I think evil expresses itself that

the enemy is coming to steal, kill and destroy.

But that's true in a marriage too, to kill a marriage.

And in fact, someone shared with me that, you know, marriage is the representation of God's image on this earth, that he created man and woman to be his image on this earth and that the two become one flesh and that every marriage

that walks this earth is a stench in the nostrils of Satan.

And that's why he attacks it every day.

Absolutely. So in that context context Matt, why is that contentment and respect so

vital to cultivate a loving biblical marriage? Well I think you touched on it in

terms of this business of being one, spending time thinking,

what does that really mean?

And at the core of that oneness is the concept of fellowship.

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