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When you get married, you both have certain expectations, let's say, and it's probably good to know what those are and to let go of some of them.

I'm John Fuller, along with Greg and Aaron Smalley from the Focus on the Family Marriage Department, and let's listen now to a clip from Focus on the Family with Jim Daly.

Jim spoke with Rebecca St. James, who was a very successful musical artist before she met her husband, Cubby Fink,

and they shared with Jim about adjustments they made in marriage.

Rebecca, let me ask you this, and Kabby, I'm going to come to a guy question, so get ready.

But for you, I'm just thinking again the nature of entertainment,

Christian or secular, but there seems to be, for the performer, there needs to be a sense of

control, that things are going well. So when you translate that into your life, the way God has wired you, both made you

successful as a singer, musician, but it also brings some things that you need to manage,

like that control issue. And as I'm listening to you, I'm thinking, okay, that's the life battle

for you.

How do you relax with the Lord and not have to control outcomes, your spouse, when you were so

thirsty to be married, your children, when you just wanted to be that mom?

And you really, what I love about the way you express it so vulnerably is it's right

there for people to see. You're not hiding it. But we all deal with this. These are all human

issues. So speak to that discipline of saying, okay, Lord, I know I have a bent for this control,

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