In today's lessons episode, I want to expose a relatively painful truth that is destroying

millions of lives. The dreams that you're chasing aren't even yours. If you're working towards

goals that look impressive, they leave you feeling empty inside. If you've been copying other people's

success, they're asking what actually makes you happy, when you secretly worry you're living someone else's

version of a good life, you have to listen. I'll show you why most people spend decades pursuing

these borrowed dreams that they absorb from social media and society and how to stop copying

everyone else's desires and start choosing your own before you waste your entire life,

living the wrong life and building towards the wrong thing.

Today I'm going to show you why the dreams that you're living aren't yours.

But first, the story. Grace was dying. After 67 years of marriage, three children,

and a life that looked perfect from the outside, she lay in the hospital bed with tears

streaming down her face. I wanted to travel the world, she whispered, to her pallet of care nurse.

I wanted to write stories. I wanted to live alone in a small apartment in Paris and eat croissons

every morning. She paused, struggling to breathe,

but everyone expected me to be the perfect wife, the perfect mother. I lived the life they wanted me

to live, not the one I dreamed about. And sadly, Grace died three days later. And her nurse,

Ronnie Ware, would later write that this was the most common deathbed regret she heard. I wish I had the

courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. But here's what

Ware didn't realize and what you need to understand. Grace's story isn't about lacking courage.

It's about something far more disturbing that I really want you to understand. Grace's story isn't about lacking courage. It's about something far more disturbing that I

really want you to understand as soon as possible. Grace never had her own dreams to begin with.

She was living a lie. A lot of us are living a lie. French philosopher René Girard,

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