Leaving Abuse (2017 Rerun)

Psychology In Seattle Podcast

Kirk Honda

Mental Health, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 20 May 2025

⏱️ 26 minutes

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Dr. Kirk Honda talks about leaving abuse

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February 1, 2017

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Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.

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0:00.0	Hey, deserving listeners, it's just me today. I have a prediction that I'm going to get angry today in this
0:06.0	episode. I've already skimmed this email from a patron listener, and I predict, I'm just, I feel rage
0:18.8	building inside me, and I'll see if I can control it. This is the Psychology in Seattle
0:27.2	podcast. I'm your host, Dr. Kirk Honda. I am a therapist and a professor. My anger is not
0:35.5	directed at the patron. It's directed at the patron's therapist, but let's just
0:39.7	read this email. Hi, Kirk, I just wanted to comment on your episode about domestic violence.
0:45.6	I am writing today because this episode hit close to home, especially when you talked about
0:50.5	therapists who don't understand domestic violence. I feel like my therapist doesn't
0:55.7	understand domestic violence. So I cited to end my therapy with him. I terminated therapy with
1:01.7	him. I feel like my therapist was putting too much pressure on me to leave my relationship.
1:07.6	Having anxiety issues, this made it even harder for me to open up to this topic with my therapist,
1:14.4	as I could see my therapist being frustrated with me for not leaving. I could easily see he didn't get it,
1:22.2	and I felt so alone in this. He would tell me things like, just get your things and leave. And I would say that it
1:29.9	wasn't that easy. And then he would say it was really as simple as just leaving. It all made me feel
1:35.9	as though I'm not good enough to get myself out of my own problems. I was feeling his frustration
1:41.0	and getting even more hard on myself with each appointment with him.
1:45.5	He would tell me that I had to take action, that he didn't know what else he could do to help me.
1:51.4	Now, being out of therapy, I don't see myself going back to any therapist until I leave this
1:56.7	relationship, as I feel like all I'll get from this, from this is another therapist
2:02.3	pressuring me to just leave. I feel embarrassed to talk about it, and I feel like I'd be a burden
2:08.0	to another person, another therapist. I feel so much anger now when I hear about domestic
2:13.8	violence, not only because it's hard to deal with in the first place, but because
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