Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani #1 | How To Be Authentically You & Still Respect Others

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Kevin Miller

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🗓️ 6 July 2023

⏱️ 80 minutes

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I continue to be enamored with this tension of being self-aware and being true to yourself, while also being sensitive to others and respecting who and how they are. We tend to fall on the side of “just being me” and being raw and unfiltered which is likely to get you ostracized, or just performing for others and being untrue to yourself and in essence being dishonest to those you care about. I’ve fallen on the latter side most of my life and just people pleased to make everyone happy, which is exhausting and leads me to just retreating from everyone. This doesn’t help me or them. My expert guest for this series is Kristina Mänd-Lakhiani You’ll likely know her as the cofounder of Mindvalley, which is billed as “the world’s most powerful life transformation platform with an ever-growing 20 million-strong following.” They boast the teaching and trainings of many of the personalities I’ve had here on my podcast. Kristina is an entrepreneur, writer, international speaker, artist, and philanthropist. She grew up in the former Soviet Union and has a tremendous story of overcoming. Today she’s based in Estonia and my muse is her new book, Becoming Flawesome: The Key to Living An Imperfectly Authentic Life. Like me, Kristina has spent decades in the personal development industry and in this episode we candidly discuss the dark side of personal growth and how it can feed our insecurities. How it can leave you feeling you are never enough and tire you out with a feeling of constant striving. Kristina has a heart for people who, like her, realize they have become a missing person in their own life.” She cites that you won’t find peace being even 95% honest and authentic if you’re still 5% fake or performing. This is a message I really wanted to dig into for myself and I believe you’ll resonate with it. The Self Helpful podcast is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. #mindvalley Go to Zocdoc.com/KEVIN and download the Zocdoc app for FREE. Then find and book a top-rated doctor today. InsideTracker is your personal health analysis and data-driven wellness guide, designed to help you live healthier and longer. For a limited time, Self Helpful listeners can get 20% off InsideTracker’s new Ultimate Plan. Visit InsideTracker.com/helpful. If you’re looking for a simpler and cost-effective supplement routine, Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/SELFHELP. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Therapy, made accessible. Visit BetterHelp.com/selfhelpful today to get 10% off your first month. Air Doctor, the Professional Air Purifier that captures contaminants 100X smaller than standard HEPA purifiers. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! ButcherBox is giving new members a free Flank Steak in every box for 3 months! Sign up at ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful and get Flank Steak for 3 months, Log on to ButcherBox.com/selfhelpful to claim this deal! Noom’s changing how the world thinks about weight loss. Go to noom.com to sign up for your trial today! Stop throwing your money away. Cancel unwanted subscriptions – and manage your expenses the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/SELFHELPFUL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	This is a Glassbox Media Podcast.
0:07.0	It's important to remember, your relationship with the world is the reflection of your relationship with yourself.
0:13.0	So if you can't be kind with yourself, very likely you can't be kind with the world.
0:19.0	That's why I say that perfectionism is not just a hard burden for you, it's a hard burden for people in your life.
0:25.0	Efectionists are really hard to live with.
0:28.0	And so very critical people, you know, people who have an impossibly high bar that's very hard to live with, not because they suffer.
0:37.0	And you know, if I love you, I will suffer by looking at you suffer, but they actually impose that on people in their life.
0:45.0	So for you to sort out your relationship with yourself in a way is a public service.
0:50.0	I think if people learned to be, to be at peace with themselves, it would be so easy for them to be at peace with the rest of the world.
0:58.0	Welcome to Self Helpful.
1:00.0	I'm your guide Kevin Miller and I curate the Sea of New Personal Development Messages to bring the most influential leaders onto this show.
1:08.0	Join me as I question my guests to better understand their counsel so we can all integrate the wisdom into our lives.
1:16.0	Because we all want to elevate our own experience and improve the way we show up for others.
1:22.0	The Self Helpful podcast is presented by Ziggler, your premier source for equipping coaches, visit ziggler.com.
1:30.0	Hello, Self Helpful listeners, in this episode how to be authentically you and still respect others.
1:43.0	I continue to be enamored with this tension of being self-aware, being true to yourself, while also being sensitive to others and respecting who and how they are as well.
1:54.0	We tend to fall on the side of just being me and being raw and unfiltered, which is likely to get you ostracized, or just performing for others and being untrue to yourself.
2:05.0	And in essence being dishonest to those you care about.
2:08.0	And I've fallen on the ladder side most of my life and just people pleased to make everybody happy, which is exhausting and leads me to just retreating from everyone.
2:18.0	And this doesn't help me or them.
2:21.0	Well, my expert guest for this series on the topic is Christina Mandlachiani.
2:27.0	You may know her as co-founder of Mind Valley, which is built as the world's most powerful life transformation platform with an ever growing 20 million strong following got millions on social media as well as members.
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