Key Skills for Great Relationships

Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Being Well

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

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🗓️ 10 August 2020

⏱️ 57 minutes

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In part two of our conversation, we explore some of the key psychological skills that lead to a truly great relationship informed by 35 years of couples counseling experience. The Relationships Workshop: Join Rick for a live, online relationship workshop that will teach you how to have more fulfilling, effective, and joyful relationships than ever before. Follow the link to learn more, and podcast listeners can enter code BEWELL50 at checkout for $50 off the purchase price! Key Skills: 3:00: Give your full attention. 6:30: Tune into your body. 7:20: Cultivate interest. 11:00: How can we know if we’re actually empathic? 13:00: Your attention is yours. 16:00: Accepting some level of discomfort. 17:45: Getting comfortable with people wanting things from you. 21:00: Three stories of relating. 22:30: Fulfilling relationship tasks. 24:30: Changing our relationship to criticism. 30:30: Chronic giving, and setting firm boundaries. 37:30: Cultivating a stronger sense of self. 44:30: Talk about what matters. 50:50: The desire to be found. Support the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. From Dr. Hanson: The Foundations of Well-Being brings together the lessons of a lifetime of practice into one year-long online program. Podcast listeners can use the code BEINGWELL25 at checkout for an additional 25% off! Please don't hesitate to apply for a scholarship if you're in need. Sponsors: Want fresh, delicious, simple dinners delivered right to your doorstep? Check out HelloFresh, America’s #1 meal kit, and use code beingwell90 to get $90 off including free shipping! Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world’s largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month! Want to sleep better? Try the legendary Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription. Connect with the show: Follow us on Instagram Follow Rick on Facebook Follow Forrest on Facebook Subscribe on iTunes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Hello and
0:05.0	welcome to being well. I'm your host Forrest Hansen. I'm joined today as usual by Dr.
0:09.7	Rick Hansen and Rick is a clinical psychologist and best-selling author who spent over 35 years
0:15.2	teaching people the key lessons from psychology and contemplative practice that lead to
0:20.3	a good life. I'm also happy to say that he happens to be my dad, so Dad, how are you doing today?
0:25.3	Rollin, Rollin, Rahide.
0:28.0	What an introduction, an introduction unlike any other that we've ever had the history of the show
0:36.8	but what I really like when I toss it to you dad is that I honestly never know
0:40.8	what I'm going to get.
0:42.8	It could be anything.
0:43.6	It could be a deep reflection on the nature of human life.
0:46.6	It could be a line from a song.
0:49.8	You just never know.
0:52.1	And maybe that sense of uncertainty and confusion periodically, but
0:59.2	suffuse in love is a kind of theme for our conversation today. So this is going to be the second part in our kind of conversation on building a good relator and developing strong relationships and good interpersonal style,
1:12.8	good communication style, all of that good stuff.
1:15.4	And our last one, we spoke extensively
1:17.6	on attachment theory and the ways in which different kinds
1:21.0	of attachment can manifest practically in our relationships.
1:24.1	I spoke myself for a while about being a secure but leaning anxious attacher and the ways in which
1:31.3	that appeared. We talked about maintaining optimal distance. and the to fully complete inside of ourselves so that we can become more comfortable in a little bit of discomfort.
1:46.6	Another big point that we raised was the difference between experiences and attributions,
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