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Are you annoyed by affirmations? Are you tired of that same old rehashed personal growth advice that all seems to boil down to think positively and all your problems will go away.

If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial,

then I want you to get ready.

The overwhelmed brain is here to help you create the life you want now. Welcome to the overwhelmed brain. I am your host personal empowerment coach Paul Kuleani. I am here to help you increase

your emotional intelligence, strengthen your self-worth and self-esteem and

empower you so that you can make decisions that are right for you.

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and is meant for informational and educational purposes only.

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Now we're going to get into something that's a listener named Simon suggested.

It's a great suggestion. He said know, once you get your relationship back on track, how do you

keep it there without having it slip into old destructive patterns? So I think that's a great question to ask and to cover for a topic today because

many relationships go through their ups and downs And the problem is that we go up and then we go back down again because we get into old patterns.

We slip into old disfunctions. One or both partners are triggered by something that has

happened in the past and continues to happen because the trigger is still

fresh inside them in my marriage when I was married.

I was triggered by my wife's behavior.

It wasn't her fault, it was just my trigger.

And every time she did certain behavior I got triggered so I would

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