Jay’s Must-Listens: Marriage Isn’t About Finding “The One” (5 Truths Every Couple Needs to Hear Before Marriage!)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 28.5K Ratings
🗓️ 22 October 2025
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
How do you know when you’re ready to commit?
Do you think love alone is enough?
Marriage isn’t a destination, it’s a daily practice. It’s the ongoing choice to show up, grow, and recommit to each other through every season of change. In this special compilation, Jay brings together powerful insights from Jada Pinkett Smith, relationship coach Sadia Khan, psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb, and his own reflections with Radhi. Together, they explore how lasting love isn’t built on fleeting chemistry, but on emotional resilience, self-awareness, and the courage to evolve, side by side.
Jada shares how marriage can be a spiritual journey, where your partner reflects both your light and your flaws, guiding you toward unconditional love and deeper healing. Sadia reveals the often-overlooked truths about infidelity, self-control, and discipline, reminding us that love cannot thrive without trust. Lori highlights the power of honest communication, from setting boundaries with in-laws to having the tough conversations about money, marriage, and children before it’s too late.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Build Emotional Resilience in Marriage
How to Heal and Grow Through Partnership
How to Spot Signs of Emotional Distance
How to Create Space for Emotional Openness
How to Recommit as Your Partner Evolves
Every relationship faces challenges, but those moments can become powerful opportunities for growth when met with compassion and openness. The true beauty of love lies in the willingness to listen, to learn, and to keep building something real, together.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty.
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:28 The Cornerstone of Family Life
03:58 When Divorce Feels Like the Only Option
08:44 The Power of Unconditional Love
14:14 Valuing How People Show Up
18:13 Every Marriage Looks Different
20:14 Rethinking Traditional Marriage
24:13 Do Women or Men Get Cheated on More?
26:19 Choosing a Man with Self-Control
27:59 Why Sexual Discipline Matters
29:45 Don’t Ignore These Red Flags!
32:35 Staying Attuned to Your Partner
34:28 Talk About Marriage Before the Proposal
37:43 Why a Baby Won’t Fix a Marriage
40:41 When Your Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for You
46:36 Building a Safe Space for Connection
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. |
| 0:04.6 | I'm Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, host of the psychology podcast. |
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| 0:21.5 | Avoidance is easier. Ignoring is easier. Denials is easier. Complex problem solving. |
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| 0:32.9 | you get your podcasts. On this show, I've been so lucky to sit down with some of the greatest |
| 0:39.5 | experts on the planet, from when it comes to marriage, to romance, chemistry, compatibility, |
| 0:45.8 | some of the therapists that are working with hundreds of clients worldwide, and people |
| 0:51.1 | in the public eye who've opened up about their own experience. |
| 0:55.8 | You're going to get to hear from all of them in just a moment, so make sure you stick around. |
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| 1:02.8 | Jay Shetty. |
| 1:03.6 | Jay Shetty. |
| 1:04.3 | He won the only. |
| 1:06.0 | Jay Shetty. |
| 1:08.5 | When it comes to building a lasting marriage, most people think it starts with romance or chemistry. |
| 1:15.0 | But it's actually something else. |
| 1:17.3 | The real foundation to a lasting marriage is emotional resilience. |
| 1:22.9 | Think about this. |
| 1:24.0 | Nearly half of all marriages in the US still end in divorce. The number one reason isn't a lack of |
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