Welcome to Nobody Told Me.

I'm Laura Owens, and I'm Jan Black.

Our show is a two-generational look at life, death, and lots of things in between.

Today, we're looking at the relationship between parents and their adult children, which may be difficult at times. For some

insight into that, we turn to an expert on the subject, social psychologist and author Jane Adams.

Jane's books include When Our Grown Kids Disappoint Us, and I'm Still Your Mother,

How to Get Along with Your Grown Up Children for the rest of your life.

Jane also writes the Between the Lines blog on the Psychology Today.com website.

Jane, thanks so much for joining us.

Thank you. It's nice to be here.

Because you're two generations, and that's what I talk about, and you're in business together,

and I often coach family businesses about boundaries in the business and boundaries in the family.

So I'm really interested in how you guys do it.

And that's why we were interested in talking with you.

We got super excited when we saw this because what I was going to say is you see so many

magazines and books about parenting children, but you really don't see anything about the

relationship between parents and their grown-up children. So why did that interest you?

Well, because I've been writing about kids and their parents for a long time since I wrote sex and a single parent a hundred years ago or so. Well, because I've been writing about kids and their parents for a long time since I wrote sex and a single parent 100 years ago or so when my kids were young and I was divorced and trying to figure out how to do both at the same time, you know, be a sexual human being and a single mom.

Sure.

And I got in the habit of writing about first starting with the issues that I was dealing with

and then going around and talking to the experts and interviewing people who are going through it.

And that just sort of followed along with my kids growing up.

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