ITL260: How to Deal with People Who Hold Grudges
In the Loop with Andy Andrews
Matt Lempert
4.9 • 614 Ratings
🗓️ 5 November 2016
⏱️ 27 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the best way to deal with people who are bitter. It's important to understand the difference between a choice and a mistake. • A mistake is something like turning right at a stop sign when you were supposed to turn left, causing you to arrive late to a meeting. You can apologize for this. • A choice is something that was deliberately done, knowing it was wrong. You can't apologize for this—you can only ask for forgiveness. After doing all you can do, the best way to deal with a bitter person is to ignore or avoid them. • If you humble yourself and express remorse when asking for forgiveness, you've really done all you can do. • We can only control ourselves (how we react to bitterness and how we forgive others). If you are the person holding the grudge, being bitter will only hurt you. • People can sense bitterness in others. • Holding a grudge makes you less effective in business. • If you don't learn to forgive, your bitterness will last forever. Tune in to hear how Andy's book, The Heart Mender, restored the relationship between a father and son who were estranged for 11 years.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | You're listening to In the Loop, a unique opportunity to see life from a different perspective |
| 0:06.5 | with New York Times bestselling author, Andy Andrews. Now here's your host, David Loy. |
| 0:13.2 | Hi, and welcome to In The Loop with Andy Andrews. I'm your host, David Lloyd. Thanks for joining us today. |
| 0:18.3 | Andy, how are you? I am good, buddy. How are you doing? |
| 0:21.3 | I am fantastic. You know, I just want to make sure as we get going here, can you hear me okay? Are, am I coming through loud? I mean, does it sound okay? You are, you're perfect, you are side by side and tree top wide or tree top tall or whatever that. What is that? I don't know what that means. |
| 0:19.0 | You know, oh yeah, it's like that i don't know what that means you know |
| 0:39.0 | oh this it's like i don't know cb language but you see you're younger and i don't know exactly |
| 0:44.7 | what it was there's something they would say something something and tree top tall meaning you're |
| 0:49.3 | coming in loud and clear okay but you're you're obviously too young for the convoy crazy. |
| 0:56.3 | You do remember convoy, don't you? |
| 0:59.1 | I know what a convoy is. |
| 1:01.2 | I don't know what you're talking about, though. |
| 1:02.9 | Oh, my God, David. |
| 1:04.7 | I'm embarrassed for you. |
| 1:06.5 | All the people on here who absolutely know, I mean, this song, it was the craziest song, and it |
| 1:12.9 | was in the 70s sometime, because I was in, I think I was in the eighth grade. |
| 1:18.4 | I was in the eighth grade. |
| 1:19.5 | I was exactly where Adam is now. |
| 1:23.3 | And I remember that song first came out. |
| 1:25.6 | I was playing ping pong on my dad, and I had heard it one time. And I said, wait, stop. Listen. Listen, quick. And, you know, and my dad was caught up in this just like everybody else was. My dad ended up buying a CB for his Buick LaSaber. Okay. He's like, you know, hey, good buddy. |
| 1:44.4 | And it's like, oh, we're rolling our eyes. |
| 1:46.2 | But the song, I mean, everybody in America was using these things. |
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