Hi, my name is John Kim. I'm a therapist who went through his own rebirth many years ago

and I've been documenting my journey ever since sharing my life lessons and revelations.

I believe in casual or clinical with you instead of at you. I come unrehearsed on purpose

because self-health doesn't have to be so complicated.

So Vanessa and I got stood up.

We did.

Every Monday we are taking calls and from couples and from couples and we're going to for about 30 minutes do a laser session when I call

a laser session and they're going to be episodes of our podcast because we have a new book coming out called

It's Not Me, it's You, and it's just creating a dialogue to help other people.

So today was our first one.

And they probably said, fuck this.

We're not doing this.

And so Vanessa and I are going to talk about something. Instead. So what I was telling you that I thought would be an interesting conversation, I posted a video

earlier about somebody asked me what's the best way to approach my partner with a difficult

conversation and I made a video around, you know, sometimes like different people have different

communication styles and that some people respond really well when you just

like bring something to them and just say, hey I want to talk about this thing.

Right. Some people need a little bit of buff to them and just say, hey I want to talk about this thing.

Some people need a little bit of buffer, so hey, I want to have a conversation with you about

something, you know, do you think tonight after work would be a good time and kind of let that person digest it and say like no

actually no like what about tomorrow morning or whatever right like actually tell you when they're

ready not meaning they can stretch it out for weeks, but like give you a heads up.

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