Is It a Red Flag If You Never Fight With Your Partner?
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 25 May 2026
⏱️ 46 minutes
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Summary
We're both sick, we slept until noon, and we have a mystery anniversary trip in two days — Jake planned the whole thing and Ilana has no idea where they're going. We talk froyo orders (gummy bears are a crime), the great do-guys-actually-give-each-other-style-feedback debate, and tease next week's recording from wherever they end up. Two listener questions this week: one from someone whose relationship has been conflict-free for a year and is spiraling because the internet says that's a red flag (spoiler: it's not), and one from someone who knows her ex wasn't right for her but still can't stop hurting seeing him move on.
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| 0:00.0 | guys we both slept until 12 today another another Sunday recording yeah I'm not too fond of |
| 0:09.3 | Sunday recordings because this comes out on Monday and it's like what if we don't feel good on |
| 0:14.2 | Sunday what if something comes up we have to record and then I still have to edit and get |
| 0:19.0 | that episode scheduled so it really feels like leaving things down to the last minute. |
| 0:23.9 | And I am a last minute type of person. |
| 0:25.7 | But like with recordings, I like to be usually a month ahead with Tuesday and Thursday |
| 0:30.9 | and Thursday recordings. |
| 0:31.6 | So to record on Sundays is just hard for Alana. |
| 0:34.0 | But we're working through it. |
| 0:34.7 | But also it's the most up to date on our life weekly. |
| 0:37.7 | It's true. So we can talk about how the Knicks are 3 and O. Yes. And yesterday we wouldn't have been able to say that. Yes. You're right. I had a bunch of stuff yesterday. So that's true. Okay. Yeah. Not feeling well at Sunday. Yeah, Jake's sick this week. I'm sick. We're trading off now. Yeah. Yeah. |
| 0:55.7 | But excited to catch up. |
| 0:57.0 | We have some more listener questions. |
| 0:58.9 | Thank you guys, as always, for sending those in. |
| 1:04.1 | I have a question for Jake about something I recorded, an episode I recorded this week. |
| 1:13.4 | And we were saying, like, it'd be interesting to ask Jake about his perspective on it. We got some updates for you guys and it's going to be a good episode. Ready to go? Let's do it. Let's do it. Reminder, please listen to the ads because |
| 1:19.1 | if you don't, then we don't get paid and we'd love to do this anyway, but it's also really |
| 1:23.3 | fun to make a few dollars off of the work that we do. Thank you. Okay, I should have started by |
| 1:31.4 | saying, if you're new here, welcome to seeing other people. I'm Alana. He's Jake, and this is co-hosts |
| 1:36.2 | for Life. It's our Monday episode of the week where we talk about what's going on in our lives, |
| 1:40.0 | in our marriage, and just give you guys an update so you really know and feel like you're a part |
| 1:45.1 | of the family. If you are returning for the second time, for the 10th time, for the 500th time, |
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