do do do do here we go my name's Todd this is Kathy welcome back to another episode of zen parenting

radio this is podcast number 596 closing in on the big 6-0 why listen to zen parenting radio because

you'll feel outstanding and I always remember our motto which is that the best predictor of a child's

well-being is a parent's self-understanding.

On today's show, we're going to talk about a concept that Kathy read in a book called Your Turn.

Yes. It's Julie Lithcott-Hame's new book, How to Be an Adult, which is a follow-up to one of her previous books, which is how to raise an adult.

And the concept that we're going to discuss is called the invisible situations.

Just invisible situation.

Oh, invisible situation.

Yeah, I mean, and I'll explain what that means.

I just found it to be very helpful in

describing something that I think we deal with as a society, but we didn't have language for. And she

gave me language. All right. Thank you, Julie. But first, we are going to do the Zen Parenting

Moment, which is a blog that Kathy writes choice a week, Tuesdays and Fridays.

And what I do is I just pull up a few from the previous week and pick one to talk about.

And first, I'm going to just play a clip from City Slickers because this is the quote that led your blog.

And the title of the blog was called...

Attention.

Attention.

So it's about 60 seconds.

You all come up here about the same age, same problems.

Spend about 50 weeks a year getting nuts in your rope and then...

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