Initiation Mistakes Married People Make #674
Sexy Marriage Radio
Dr Corey and Pam Allan
4.8 • 1.2K Ratings
🗓️ 1 May 2024
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
In this episode we discuss common mistakes that married couples make when it comes to initiating sex.
There are dynamics of higher desire and lower desire and patterns that make these mistakes so each to make.
We cover six common mistakes: getting annoyed at being the one who initiates, using covert or roundabout methods of initiation, joking or crude initiations, feeling the need to be as turned on as your partner, using the same initiation method every time, and talking yourself out of initiating.
Takeaways
Recognize the dynamics of higher desire and lower desire in your relationship
Update your map of each other as you grow and change
Avoid common mistakes in initiation, such as getting annoyed or using covert methods
Focus on connection rather than just sexual fulfillment
Communicate with your spouse about your initiation patterns and desires
Take action to improve your initiation patterns and foster a deeper connection
On the Xtended Version ...
What make authenticity and vulnerability in marriage so difficult?
Is it the motivations behind the vulnerability? The reactions to vulnerable moments? Both?
Let's explore more.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Sexy Marriage Radio. I'm Dr. Corey Allen alongside my wife Pam. |
| 0:07.0 | Always good to be here. |
| 0:08.0 | Each and every week. Straightforward honest conversations to help spice up married life and spice up all that life |
| 0:16.5 | and marriage and sex can be because let's face it like today's topic we all get in our own way sometimes. True, so true. And sometimes our |
| 0:28.1 | spouse is in the way too. Let's just be honest. We may have some grand plan and idea and they're just not quite on board. |
| 0:35.0 | That happens as well. |
| 0:38.0 | But what we want to try to do is frame conversations and actions that people can take |
| 0:42.0 | to make marriage fully alive, to make their sex lives fully alive and to have just |
| 0:46.7 | tremendous connections throughout all the way through. |
| 0:49.9 | And so if you're new to the show, we want to hear from you. |
| 0:53.0 | We like to know what's going on in your world and how relationships can be better for you specifically. |
| 0:59.0 | And so you can let us know at 214-09565 or feedback at sexy marriage radio.com and so coming up |
| 1:07.0 | today on the regular version is a fun topic on initiation mistakes that married people make and yes this includes us. |
| 1:16.0 | Yeah 30 years then there's still mistakes. |
| 1:19.0 | Absolutely there there will still be some mistakes that we all can make that I make the Pam makes and |
| 1:25.0 | so we're just going to kind of unpack those talk about them and then give you some action items |
| 1:30.0 | that can help overcome them. |
| 1:33.0 | And then on the extended content today, |
| 1:35.0 | which is deeper longer and there's no ads, |
| 1:37.1 | you can subscribe at SMR.FM, |
| 1:40.2 | we're gonna look at why and how authenticity and vulnerability in marriage often makes it kind of scary because of the reactions that can come. |
| 1:51.0 | Because it's a very common aspect and it's a little bit of a deep dive but it should be a lot of fun to explore some of the dynamics that are at play. |
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