This is Chris Taylor with this week's sex chat quickie. My tip today is about initiating sex. I've heard from

countless wives about all the ways they let their husbands know they're interested. You know,

they drop hints, they caress his shoulder or his thigh a bit. They make bedroom eyes or maybe even flash their husband.

And a couple things might happen. One is that your husband gets the hint and invites you to join him

in the bedroom. Yay, you initiated. Woohoo. The other thing that might happen is, well, nothing. Your

husband might look confused or uncomfortable or annoyed, but he just doesn't respond to your initiation.

I used to get really confused by this. My husband would say, I really want you to initiate more,

and then I would do so, and he just didn't get it. And here's the thing. Many, many husbands have

told me that they just don't pick up on

hints or subtlety. Your husband might not even realize that the caress on his thigh was your

attempt to initiate. He might think it was an accident. In his mind, all you did was get him to ask you to

have sex. So it really doesn't look like you initiating. So here's the all-important tip. Be obvious. Be very obvious. So here are some ideas you can use. Be descriptive about what you want to do. You know, let's put your penis inside me, or would you like to join me in the bedroom,

naked? For extra flare, you could even use scripture. Let my beloved come into his garden

and taste its choice fruits. Another idea is to stick with your subtle teasing, but also tell him

outright that you are doing this for the purpose of inviting him to have sex. In case you

wonder what's going on, hon, I am initiating sex with you, or, you know, letting you see down my top

was not an accident. Are you getting my hint now? The third idea is to just act. Grab him by the hand

and lead him to the bedroom. Or stand in the kitchen and take

all your clothes off. Grote between his legs. You may like subtlety, but if your husband isn't picking up on it,

it's time to be obvious. That's it for this week's sex chat quickie. We'll be back next week with a full episode.