Anyone who has been in a long-term relationship knows that you are going to have conflicts; you’re going to have fights. But what are these fights really about? Are arguments about washing the dishes and cleaning the closet really about those issues, or is something deeper happening? On this episode of Women of Impact, Lisa and Tom Bilyeu talk about how to deal with differing values and opposing ideas. They discuss creating shared goals, how they build positive habits, and their methods of making sure that conversations stay open, respectful and honest. And then they give a wonderful example of good communication by examining a real life conflict they have had over making the bed... [Original air date: 6/17/20]. SHOW NOTES: When you are having arguments about money, you are really having conflicts over values [2:48] Concrete advice on how to minimize financial conflicts [6:59] When you have a collision of values, part of it is that you are judging each other [9:07] Why you have to start with shared goals and open discussion of those goals [11:02] Tom and Lisa discuss corporal punishment, spanking and discipline [14:08] Tom and Lisa talk about having differing religious beliefs and how they dealt with it [19:50] What do you do when your habits and routines conflict? [23:47] How to form habits that help your relationship [27:13] Whenever you have conflicts over “small issues”, they are actually about deep values [31:10] The problems that happen when you don’t articulate your values and just project instead [36:47] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy SPONSOR: Go over right now and sign up for just one dollar a month with your trial period at https://impacttheory.co/shopifypodAugust24 - Go to https://impacttheory.co/woiTABUpod and use code LISA15 to save 15% off your order ORDER YOUR COPY OF LISA'S BOOK "RADICAL CONFIDENCE"  (NOW IN PAPERBACK & WITH A NEW CHAPTER!) & GET YOUR FREE BADASS BONUSES: https://bit.ly/radcon ***CALLING ALL BADASSES!*** If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  *New episodes delivered ad-free, EXCLUSIVE access to hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, and so much more!* Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! *****Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP***** Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices