If You’re a People Pleaser Listen to This! (Why Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish, It’s Necessary For Real Connection)
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
iHeartPodcasts
4.8 • 28.5K Ratings
🗓️ 28 May 2025
⏱️ 86 minutes
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Summary
Do you feel guilty when you put your needs before others by saying no?
When was the last time you chose yourself—just because you needed it, not because you earned it?
Today, Jay is joined by Meggan Roxanne, writer, entrepreneur, and founder of the globally loved platform The Good Quote. Known for curating some of the internet’s most powerful and inspiring affirmations, Meggan now steps into the spotlight with her own voice, sharing a remarkable personal story of loss, resilience, and transformation.
From growing up in a warm and loving home to experiencing a heart-wrenching moment at just four years old, when a grandparent told her they didn’t love her, Meggan opens up about how early trauma shaped her emotional world. Following her mother’s final wish, Meggan became the caretaker for her estranged grandfather, the very man who once wounded her deeply. Through that act of grace, she discovered the true meaning of forgiveness, empathy, and unconditional love.
Throughout the episode, Meggan and Jay explore the difference between people-pleasing and creating space for authentic connection, how emotional boundaries protect our well-being, and what it takes to stop repeating the pain we’ve inherited. She candidly discusses the challenges of grief, especially after losing her mother, her best friend, her guide, and how that loss forced her to reimagine her identity and rebuild from the ground up.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Forgive Someone Who Hurt You Deeply
How to Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
How to Heal After Losing a Parent
How to Reconnect with Your Intuition
How to Break Generational Cycles of Trauma
How to Build Confidence Through Self-Respect
Even in the darkest of seasons, you have the power to find peace, reshape your path, and step into a life guided by intention, healing, and light.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:30 The Pain of Feeling Unloved by Family
04:12 Would You Take Care of Someone Who Doesn't Love You?
10:20 How Do You Enforce Your Boundaries?
16:20 Are You a Chronic People Pleaser?
23:06 How The Good Quote Started
34:59 Do You Trust Your Intuition?
43:49 Your Intuition is Your Best Guide
45:20 How Do You Reconnect with Your Intuition?
50:52 How Meditation Helps Calm Down Your Day
53:10 Dealing with Grief, Depression, & Losing a Loved One
Episode Resources:
Meggan Roxanne | Instagram
Meggan Roxanne | LinkedIn
The Good Quote | Instagram
The Good Quote | Facebook
The Good Quote | Tumblr
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