If you leave me, I'll kill myself - The ultimate abuse of your empathy and compassion
Love and Abuse
Paul Colaianni
4.6 • 816 Ratings
🗓️ 25 September 2019
⏱️ 38 minutes
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Summary
A suicide threat is the ultimate way to control an empathetic, caring person. When you're in a relationship with someone that threatens to kill themselves if you leave, you need to follow very specific steps so that 1. You aren't stuck in that relationship forever, and 2. If they're truly serious about taking their own life, you figure out a way to help them not follow through with it.
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior. |
| 0:07.4 | You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. |
| 0:10.9 | That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity. |
| 0:18.6 | I'm your host, Paul Koliani. |
| 0:31.6 | Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to this episode of love and abuse. |
| 0:33.5 | Today I want to talk about probably one of the most egregious and abusive behaviors that can |
| 0:42.0 | stem from an emotionally abusive relationship. |
| 0:45.1 | And that is the threat of suicide. |
| 0:47.9 | If you leave me, I'll kill myself. |
| 0:50.7 | And I don't know if you've ever been in this situation or have had any type of threat that was |
| 0:57.2 | similar in nature like if you leave me I'll do this or if you do that well I'm just going to |
| 1:03.7 | call your job and tell them you're an awful person there's some sort of threat involved but |
| 1:07.7 | today's episode is going to focus mainly on the threat of suicide. But you can use |
| 1:13.4 | the suggestions I offer for other scenarios too. But I'm going to focus on when someone says, |
| 1:22.4 | you know what, if you leave me, I love you so much. I'm going to kill myself. It's just playing with your emotions. It is |
| 1:29.1 | abusing your compassion, abusing your empathy, and guilting you into staying in what I would call |
| 1:37.9 | a very unhealthy situation, what anyone would probably call an unhealthy situation. But this is not love. |
| 1:45.1 | This is fear. |
| 1:47.4 | When somebody says that, they're saying it out of fear. |
| 1:50.5 | So we're going to talk about that in a moment. |
| 1:52.8 | I do want to say that with any episode of love and abuse, |
| 1:55.9 | please remember that all of this information is meant for informational and educational purposes only. |
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