Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.

You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.

That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.

I'm your host, Paul Koliani.

Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Welcome to another episode of love and abuse. I'm so glad you're here. If this is your

first time, welcome to the show.

And what I talk about in this show is all of the abusive behavior that we have to deal with typically in close relationships.

And that could be family.

That could be romantic.

That could even be your coworker.

You may not call those close relationships, but any relationships that you have, I want to get the information out there to you about manipulative behavior, about emotionally abusive behavior, or psychologically abusive behavior. You might hear it called verbally abusive behavior. Any type of unhealthy, poisonous, or toxic communication, as I said in the

intro. And the reason I'm doing this is because life can be so much better, A, once you identify

the poisonous or toxic communication styles of other people, and B, you're not stuck in a relationship that you can't figure out what's going on.

And, you know, the majority of people I hear from that are in some sort of toxic relationship

or toxic communication, they tell me, I didn't even realize that I was in an emotionally abusive relationship or a toxic

relationship or I didn't even realize what they were doing to me or saying to me or how they

were making me feel.

I just put that on myself.

And you'll find that a lot.

In emotionally abusive relationships, especially, you will find

that the victim of emotional abuse blames themselves. And if you find yourself blaming yourself,

then there might be something more going on. Because typically the person who blames themselves

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