If You Feel Like A Different Person Around Family, Watch This | Jerry Wise

The Daily Motivation

Lewis Howes

Education, Self-improvement

4.8 • 893 Ratings

🗓️ 29 November 2025

⏱️ 8 minutes

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You've spent your whole life thinking that harsh inner voice pushing you is what makes you successful, but what if it's not even yours? Jerry Wise reveals why the self-criticism you rely on is actually your family's voice disguised as motivation, and how to finally discover who you really are underneath it all.

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0:00.0	Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.
0:11.1	So when we are in conflict with ourselves or hypercritical of ourselves, whether it be our adult or inner child's self, how is that hurting us or helping us?
0:22.3	The thing is, first of all, I might say you're not being your true self. You're being a pseudo
0:31.4	self to yourself. You're being the family super self to yourself.
0:38.4	When you're acting that way.
0:39.4	When you're acting that way.
0:40.4	Interesting.
0:41.2	That's not you, but you think it's you.
0:44.8	And I'm going, it really isn't.
0:46.7	It's...
0:47.5	You're bringing the family trance.
0:49.8	Trance, Wi-Fi, super self, we call it,
0:53.2	because all the family connects to this big super
0:56.0	self that's all enmeshed emotionally. And we even know biologically. There's a way to describe
1:03.0	us. And that you're now not, you're not, when somebody's going, well, and I'm fine with being
1:09.2	hypercritical of myself. I'm not going to look at my inner child.
1:12.3	But every time I hear you being self-critical in a negative way, you know, towards yourself, I'm going, why are you not being yourself?
1:23.1	Because would yourself do that?
1:25.8	And they'd probably go, well, no, I wouldn't.
1:29.7	Then where is that coming from?
1:33.2	You know, well, it's just what I've always done.
1:35.8	Oh, well, now we're going to all what's always been done.
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