Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

How do you figure out what your message is?

Is there a process or just like some journaling that you can share?

Yeah.

I mean, first sitting down and saying, what do you want to be a role model on?

If you want to be a role model, what is it about? And how does that translate into a person's real life? Like, what would you say to an actual person to help them or inspire them? And you just have to start writing those words. Like, what would I say? If you could put a message on a billboard or if something was written on your tombstone, like what are those things? For me, a lot of people know it's like live, love, and matter.

Because when I faced my death as a 19-year-old kid, I was like, oh, I learned I really want to live life. I learned because I was a heartbroken kid, I wanted to love again and feel my heart again. I learned that life is super short, so you better make your difference. So live, love, and matter became central to everything I did for 15 years.

Like every message revolved around it because that was me and that was a unique experience. make your difference. So live, love, and matter became central to everything I did for 15 years.

Like every message revolved around that because that was me and that was a unique experience I had.

I think a lot of people have to go and dig down deep into their experiences of their life and

say, what were some of the gifts of the lessons that I learned? Some of the awful things that

happened to us or the challenging things, those struggles, there's a story there and that story can reveal some lessons or things that you might be a role model to for people. And it doesn't have to be so finite that it's like, this is it forever. Because you'll keep evolving, you'll keep learning. But there's hints there and you can go dig in your past to find some of those hints. You can also just ask what are the passions that I really feel in my heart that I just want to communicate right now.

Some people, it's like, well, that's fashion for them.

Some people it's health for them.

Being a mom.

Being a mom, being an educator, just showing everyday life.

That's fine because ultimately, again, you are the message.

So the most important thing isn't to figure out, like, what am I going to say? It's the most important thing is, who are you? Who are you? Is the key?

Dig deep, man. As long that question. Yes. I ask people, you know, come up with three words that describe the best of who you are. That's right. These are aspirational words. If you could think of like, three words when I'm when I'm at my best these three words really define me yeah and then I say okay

now figure out what are three words that really describe the best of you when you're with other people? Like, how do you treat them? My word, they're bold. Like, that can describe me as a person how I think. But I wouldn't want you would ever go, well, Brennan, when he's with me, he's real bold. That's different. Like how you are with other people should have a certain definition and description and how you are by yourself should have a certain, and that's how you start to know yourself. Like, oh, I'm like, this is a person. And with other people, I'm like, this is a person. It's like shaping your own internal identity of your qualities. Yeah. And reminding yourself of who you are. Labeling yourself a little bit

in a positive way. Yeah. Because most people, they take the labels the world gave them. Oh, you're just the athlete, Lewis. Yeah, exactly. Right. If you just took that and that was all you ever owned and you never explored beyond that, we wouldn't be here. That's true. Right. We're here because you explored, who am I, and you are still doing that.

So am I.

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