Trigger Warning: This podcast episode and accompanying article deal with the recent murders in Colorado and Utah, perpetrated by abusive men against their wives and families.

Were you triggered by the recent murders in Utah and Colorado?

Did you, like many women, evaluate your safety and wonder - could this happen to me?

Anne is shedding light on the murders of Angela Craig and Tausha Haight - and imploring YOU to consider that if something feels off, it probably is off. Listen to your sacred internal warning system and seek safety. Listen to the BTR.ORG Podcast for more.
Your Triggers Can Be Warnings (And Often Are)
Don't let clergy or therapists or your husband or anybody else tell you that the uneasy feeling that you were feeling is due to something that happened two years ago.

Anne Blythe, Founder of BTR.ORG
Too often, women are conditioned to dismiss feelings of uneasiness, fear, and concern. They're told:

* You're holding on to the past.
* You're just triggered.
* You're not forgiving.
* You're holding it over [your husband's] head.
* You need to move on.
* You're letting your anxiety get the better of you.
* You aren't allowing the atonement/grace/Christ/healing to work.
* You're imagining things.
* You're crazy.

Instead of Dismissing Your Triggers, Consider:
Rather than shunning, ignoring, minimizing, dismissing, or denying your triggers, consider inviting them in and sitting with the emotions, feelings, and thoughts that accompany them.

Too many women are severely abused, even murdered, by abusers who control the narrative and force them to ignore their own gut feelings.
How Can I "Honor" My Triggers When I'm Supposed to Hate Them?
You can honor your triggers by:

* Journaling your feelings.
* Talking to a close friend about what you're concerned about.
* If talking to someone else feels like too much, try speaking out loud when you're alone.
* Calling a domestic violence or emotional health hotline anonymously.

BTR.ORG Is Here For You
Tragically, at BTR we've learned that emotional and psychological abuse can be precursors to homicide - even without any documented physical violence. Please be safe. If you feel unsafe in your relationships, please take steps, even small steps, toward safety.

Our resources are here to help you. Consider attending a BTR.ORG Group Session today.
Full Transcript:
Anne (00:00):
Welcome to btr.org. This is Anne. I'm going to be talking today about two different murders that occurred. Men who murdered their wives. One of the men was a known pornography user and I'm not sure about the other one, but I bet that he was. If anyone is listening and knows that he was, please let me know and we can confirm. The first one I'm going to talk about is the murder that happened in Colorado. The perpetrator was named James Craig. He murdered his wife Angela. The reason why I want to talk about this is because of the gaslighting deceitful messages that he sent before she actually died.

(04:00):
She was poisoned previously by him. Now he was a known porn user. He was active in his church. He was in pornography addiction recovery, and he said that the first time he poisoned her was because he was going to commit suicide and he didn't want her to wake up and find it. He wanted her to be able to be asleep through the whole thing. This is what he said. None of this is true. He lied when he got caught poisoning her and had to come up with a plausible reason for doing it. So she knew that he had poisoned her before and in her mind she thought that it was because he was going to commit suicide and he ...