Dave and I joke that we've mastered fighting in our marriage.

Yes, we have.

But what we've really learned is that stressful situations trigger different reactive coping styles in each of us, which can really harm relationships.

Oh, yeah.

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Go to family life.com slash mindful marriage to start building better relationships mindfully.

I'd even think about how do you solve conflicts without arguing.

So all we did was argue. And the thought

began to run through my mind, I think I married the wrong person. We're too different. And one day I

finally said to God, I've done everything I know to do, and she won't listen to me. And as soon as I

said that, there came to my mind a visual image of Jesus washing the feet of his disciples.

And I heard God say to me, that's the problem in your marriage.

You do not have the attitude of Christ toward your life.

Okay, we've got Gary Chapman back in the studio. It's always a good day.

It's always a good day. And today we're going to talk about marriage. Who better to talk about marriage?

Nobody better. Right. In the world. I was going to say the country in the world. And we get the privilege, having you back and you know what you won't

believe this just a minute ago I you know I had a song kind of my head what about you and your

love languages and they always come to my head when I'm in the restroom I don't know why so here we

go wait I didn't know about this I didn't know it either you here we go. Wait, I didn't know about this.

I didn't know it either.

You haven't even been practicing anything.

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