During arguments, people often react in predictable ways.

You're talking about me.

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for free. When we operate out of fear, fear makes us isolate, fear makes us attack. And Jesus didn't call us to do either of those things.

Our children need to understand that Christians are different from non-Christians,

and they need to understand that Jesus has always called us to love our neighbors,

no matter how they live, no matter what they believe.

Which doesn't mean we condone everything our neighbors think or do, but we always love.

Okay, we have Rachel Gilsen with us, and I'm not exaggerating when I say this is one of the best minds and thinkers on the topic of the world we're living in in terms of same-sex attraction, transgender, LGBT.

I mean, who else would you want to sit in the studio and talk to about this?

I mean, I feel like you and Sam Albury are some of our favorites.

Because you're good thinkers,

theologically and biblically speaking,

you're always drawing from the text of the Bible and scripture.

It's one of my favorite things about Sam. He can't answer a question without pointing to an actual text.

Yes. I love sitting under his teaching. And you're like that too, Rachel. All of it is from,

here's what the Bible says. And I think that we really need that. I'm glad that you know what the Bible says. I really need it.

We all do. Yeah, I love your book. Parenting Without Panic. The only problem with this title, really not the title covers, your name's that big enough. That's what my mom said. You told us that. Your mom really said that? Well, there were two cover options, and one of them my name was quite prominent. Yeah, and my mom was well.

But it is by itself in the corner.

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