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for free. You guys will remember a little mermaid Ariel, you know, she's collected all these forks.

She doesn't know what they're for. Scuddle the seagull says, oh, those are called dinglehoppers and the humans use them to brush their hair.

She's sitting at the dinner table for the first time with Prince Eric. She sees the forks. She starts

brushing her hair and everybody's looking at her like, that's not what forks are made for.

We have done that with identity. We think we know what identity is for, and so we use

it for our own benefit. I am what I feel. I am what I do. If we want to know what identity really is,

we have to go to the person who created it and who created us, and that's God.

Okay, so we got Jonathan Holmes in the studio.

Jonathan, I don't know, do you go by Buckeye?

You're an Ohio guy.

I am.

I'd go buy everything except for Cleveland Browns, as we said earlier.

So go Buckeyes, calves, guardians, but put Browns a little bit lower in the list.

Well, I mean, the reason I'm asking, yeah, the Browns are way down there.

And we know what down there is with the Detroit Lions all those years.

Yes.

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