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I am your co-host, Christina Dodson. On the show will be our host, Dr. Kim Kimberling and Nill Smith.

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Well, this month of Awesome Marriage, we've been talking about several different myths that many of us believe about marriage.

We've been kind of shedding some truth on these myths about marriage and how to not let these

myths corrupt our marriage. So today on the podcast, we're going to be talking about the myth.

I should not have to tell my spouse what's wrong. They should just know me.

What an interesting myth that so many of us believe, right? Dr. Kim. Yeah, yes. It really is.

It's interesting sometimes, we were talking just a little bit before the show started,

before we started broadcasting, that I'll have a couple and I'll tell them, you know,

they can't reach your mind and I'll get this funny look back like, yeah, they can or they're

supposed to, you know, so I think it is a myth that for whatever it is, if you love me enough,

you're going to, you're going to know what I want. You're going to know what I need. And it just doesn't work that way.

Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. So it does sound like you see this a lot in counseling, right, Dr. Kim?

I think it's only every couple has to be aware of. I don't know any couple that probably hadn't

fallen into that at one time or the other. So I think we just have to be conscious of that and realize no we don't we're going to have to tell

what we need what we feel what we think those kind of things and it really doesn't it doesn't matter

how much your spouse loves you or not loves you they can't read your mind a lot of it is just the male

female differences you know we think differently and so nancy may see something a totally different way than I do. And if she expects

me to see it her way without her explaining that to me or expressing that to me, we're going to get

in trouble because I'm not going to do that very well. Yeah, absolutely. That's so true. So you touched

on it a little bit just there, but why do you think, like, what is the root of us believing this myth? Why do you think we believe it? Why do you think it's so easy for us to

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